I too supported both my two.
I said to both " I want you to enjoy things so no work that detracts from that "
Some finace was involved but it was not abused.
Son replied that he was not aiming for a first as he did not want to be a swat.
He was earning good money when still at school so I knew he was not skint.
He earned good money during the long " holidays " so all was well.
My daughter, six years at med school but in London got extra support. Two years of DIY on two rented flats ( in a good part of Notting Hill ) for a couple of years. She cleverly chose her elective and garnered £1000s from many organisations to pay for her elective in the Pacific.
She was a lifeguard and Medical secretary to boost funds.
I was happy to ferry things back and fro and move them many many times.
The last support for my daughter was first an emergency prep of her flat for letting prior to returning to UNI. An out of the blue invite to a to an already funded Dphil.
She was also teaching / coaching med students.
Quite a few more car trips to help moves and also minor car servicing.
We enjoyed those times and both of them used their contacts to enable us to also enjoy many
events with them.
I am more than happy to use my funds to help them rather than hoard it.
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