When I look back there was a period when I think I was arguably bullied by someone who never shouted or swore either, and in fact had a fairly pleasant manner. But he was just impossible to work for. Whatever I did it seemed was criticised because I hadn't apparently done it in the way he expected. My initial response was to start asking him how exactly he wanted me to do this that or the other, to which he would reply that it was up to me because I was the subject matter expert!
My solution to an intolerable situation was to get another job and to resign, which went down very badly - I was marched off the premises by security, put on gardening leave for three months, and threatened with having my home searched for confidential information if they thought there was any likelihood that I had any stashed.
So yes, making someone's life a misery does not necessitate shouting and swearing.
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