After just having come back from one of my mates weddings yesterday I have been feeling like I want to settle down. I was having a good chat about this yesterday with one of my mates at a wedding and he reckons setteling down will solve a lot of my problems.
He said that Match.com is the only one he knows where people had sucess from but it is very expensive at £12.99 a month for a 12 month contract.
I don't get chance to meet people in the normal way because I am self employed and have no colleagues. Even the wedding I went to yesterday was full of computer science grads and the conversations was all about IPV6, Delphi, .NET framework and all that geeky stuff.
I don't want a geeky girl because half my mates are geeks and the other half are normal.
So is it worth the £13 a month for 12 months?
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You went to a wedding and didn't pull?
You do need help. ;>)
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Need to be best man at a wedding. Can't fail to pull then.
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Your call Rattle but I'd be wary of these sorts of cyber matching outfits.
So often it is the sharing of an interest or experience which successfully brings people together. How often you can see a married couple sitting in a restaurant not really speaking because they actually don't have a lot in common. Some time in the dim and distant past they got together for reasons they can't remember and now it's too hard, embarrassing, inconvenient or expensive to admit that they don't really like each any more and maybe never did really.
On the other hand, if you are fortunate enough to meet someone with whom you genuinely share an interest or activity then the chances of long term happiness are so much more likely.
My advise would be to make a list of all the things you either like doing or have always fancied trying. It could be a sport, a type of further education, a specialised holiday whatever..........
Point being that if you take up an activity you enjoy which puts you into the company of others of a like mind it will not be long before you find both your social life expanding but also you are highly likely to meet someone who you want to spend more time with because you share an interest.
Putting yourself in the sights of a shelf bound bunny boiler on the internet sounds fraught with pitfalls to me.
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The wedding was full of men. Computers is full of men. Everything is full of men :(. Even my interests are full of men :(.
I do have some interestes which both sexes enjoy though such as photography and bike riding.
The idea of these sites is you get to see all their interests before you meet anybody, so that will always be a good chatting point. I have to be also slightly dishonest about my interests, e.g I don't mention HIFI but I do mention music.
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>> I have to be
>> also slightly dishonest about my interests>>
Oh? And you think some loathesome hound, who is gagging for it, ISN'T going to be dishonest about hers?
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You mentioned photography and bike riding, are you a member of the local clubs ? Do some photo courses, car maintenance course, bike repair course, (evening classes).
Why not find out about running a computer course of some sort wherever the local council do their evening classes ?
You need to meet real people not virtual ones, enough of them here.
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Be yourself. There are some wonderful Women out there. Be assured that they view us very differently than we view them. We look at the surface. They look deeper. Good luck.
M
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>> Be yourself.
100%. And guaranteed IF you are out with your mates, and enjoying yourself, and BEING you, the women will subconciously see you, being you, and think 'there's an interesting chap', as opposed to if you went out 'on the pull', in which case they'd see through the macho posturing BS within about 1/5 of a second.
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>> I have to be also slightly dishonest about my interests,
There lies the problem; because so will they.
I knew a girl who tried this; she's very attractive, successful, intelligent and fun but was leading a life where she wasn't meeting any men.
After 12 months she reckoned some of it was fun, some of it boring, other bits creepy but overall pointless since everybody lied about themselves and you had no idea of the type of person you would meet.
However, that's just one woman's experience so who knows what will be the reality for a male.
And just because you're male, don't think your exempt from the normal precautions (1st meeting in public place, etc. etc).
In my personal opinion the person most likely to become a long-term partner is someone who is already lightly associated with your life - Someone who is already doing the same activities, a friend of a friend, colleague of a colleague etc. etc. I think its rarely a stranger that one met for the purpose.
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i get on well with my wife because our interests are so different
i like red she likes blue
im into hifi shes into knitting
i like cars ,she sees that as an a to b contraption
i met her in frozen peas coop by the way and we then moved on to fresh bread
if we tried to meet via tinternet sites it would never ever happen
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I met my wife on Dating Direct so I would give a definate thumbs up for internet dating - so long as you know roughly what you want but keep a reasonably open mind, its possible to get plenty of attention.
I wouldnt worry about people telling white lies - people do that when they meet face to face aswell in a pub, so its no different other than you dont waste too much time having to meet alot of people that had you known some basics about, you would never have met in the first place.
Only thing id say is that you do need to put in the hours to find people you may get along with - I met my wife by chance in chat rather than by sending her a message. Just went from there.
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Settling down wont solve any of your problems.
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Trying to find a girl to settle down with wont work - too much pressure. You find girls to have fun with and settling down will come out of one of them.
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Rattle, there are several free dating sites out there (eg, plentyoffish.com ) if you want to try them first before shelling out money. The same people on the free sites are also on the pay sites. Generally it's only the blokes who have to pay subscriptions to the dating sites, hence why you'll find the same women on the free sites as they don't have to pay to go on either site.
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Crikey Zero, I agree with you. That holiday must have done you the power of good......
:-)
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Rattle,
4 of my women friends have met their blokes via internet dating sites (match.com and the guardian's site). A couple of them had to kiss a lot of frogs before they found their prince.
Frankly, if you're genuinely looking for a relationship you'd be bonkers to disregard this way of meeting people. It obviously doesn't stop you from exploring other avenues.
If you do go online, don't take it too seriously - you'll almost certainly have to put up with a few knock-backs (and they met some strange men, but nobody particularly scary). I reckon it's like sales - you have to make a certain number of calls before someone wants to do a deal.
Good luck!
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>> I reckon it's like sales - you have to make a certain number
>> of calls before someone wants to do a deal.
I think you're right - dating can be a numbers game.
Good luck Rattle and enjoy the experience...
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Enrol in a Conversational Spanish, German Class etc @ a local FE College.
Courses ae usually busy for the first 6-8 weeks when the class thins out as they have pulled.
Funnily enough some people actually go for the Spanish etc - hoping to pull on their next holiday!
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>> i met her in frozen peas coop by the way and we then moved on
>> to fresh bread
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Mrs. H and I met in Morrisons, where she worked on the deli counter. I have endured all the jokes about "putting one's **** in the bacon slicer" but despite the 20 year age gap, we're happy together.
She's actually a bigger petrolhead than I am, her dream car is a Shelby GT500 and she'd gladly swap her current Harley for an Indian!
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I know what you mean about life being full of men... seems to be a curse that comes with computers.
I tried match.com many years ago now. It was ok although if I was dating now I would try looking for free alternatives first. What about plentyoffish.com - IIRC they have a large number of subscribers and are free.
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Why don't you try one of those dogging sites? Plenty of women on there who are well up for it.
If I were to recommend a conventional way of meeting women, join a dancing school. Men are seriously outnumbered by a high factor, and even if you have no luck there the ability to dance properly is a gauranteed way to pull when you are out clubbing.
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Dunno if I like the sound of that RR. Shouldn't think he'd want all those muddy paw prints all over the inside of his new Panda anyway....... Or am I not up to speed on the parlance here ?
:-)
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He's not looking for someone with a blue rinse. Or do you fancy being a toy boy and going to the post office for the pension R? :-)
Seriously, however you approach it, I hope it works out for you.
JH
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Tenerife is a good place to pull a byrd (and some!)
The supreme being in its infinite wisdom arranged the human race so that there are roughly an equal number of men to women,
You live in a large city so there must be a large number of flowers to chose from.
Surely you must meet women down the pub at the weekend - ask one out.
Dating agency's could work (in theory) never tried one myself but I like the idea you can get to know someone first.
Finding a partner and settling down is something that just happens usually, there is a magic behind the modus operandi which is very subtle and as old as the hills, but if you have to think about it, it wont work because it is as natural as the birds and the bees.
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Having been married twice now, the golden rule is to find someone who is what you need in a woman rather than the things you think you want.
I made a bad choice the first time around but second time around I went for totally different things which actually were more important for settling down - my ex wife was the kind you could describe either as not for marrying or for marrying frequently to any number of poor souls.
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Do the YHA still have local groups? Mrs B and I met that way; common interest in walking and cycling. Must have been to half a dozen other member's weddings in the three years i was active and there'd have been several others I wasn't invited to.
The girls said YHA stood for 'Your Husband Assured'.
My own parents met through a similar outfit the (then) Co-Operative Holidays Association or CHA - Mum called it the Catching Husband's Association'!!
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I met my other half as she was....er.....going out with my mate. One of those things really - had known them as a couple for a number of years, and one night after a few to many she confesed that she wished she lived with me and not him. Bit of a shock for me as I had always seen her as my mates girl and nothing more, but realised she was probably the girl I saw who I was most attracted to. Anyway, thats 11 years and 4 kids ago.
Rattle - have you tried speed dating? You get to meet quite a few people in one night, and then follow up on anyone you click with. Good way to meet face to face and open up your odds with the numbers. We have frinds who met this way about 5 years ago - now happily married, and his story was similar to yours - worked away a lot, and found that all his friends had settled down, and he was left on teh shelf.
Also have a work colleague who used the dating service provided by that left wing broad sheet - they have just moved in together, although he did meet quite a few before metting the right one.
I say go for it with a free site and take it from there
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I believe Zero has it commonsensically right. You may meet a like-minded woman like that - people do - but the chances are you won't, and in the process you may have to be polite to a lot of people you'd rather not have met.
You need to listen to what people here tell you Rattolo. You need to put yourself about, live it up, don't be scared of the new. You have male and female 'mates'. Surely in their company there must be some interesting looking, er, totty?
I'm not underestimating the problems. You are shy with women, as I am. But give it time and you too could end up with two marriages and eight descendants so far. Honestly Ratso, just talk to anyone pretty you meet if you have the gonads at the time. Something will come of it eventually.
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Hello
I'm in computers myself and it is a very male industry.
I've been on my own for long periods and have tried the online dating thing but found that it didn't work for me. None of the girls that I met I had that spark with and I just didn't find it a good way to meet 'the one'
But now planning my wedding for April next year with the most fantastic girl in the world who I met through one of the companies we do computer support for.
It's hard to believe when you don't have anyone (I know, I've been there) but you will meet someone.
As Armel says, just talk to anyone pretty you meet if you have the gonads at the time. Something will come of it eventually.
I got so nervous taking the telephone number of my future wife that my hands were shaking so much I could barely get the number into my phone :-)
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Worth remembering that you should look for the type of woman you are looking for in the kind of place you would expect to find her. If your shy, its unlikely you will find someone of a similar disposition dancing on a pole in the local club for instance.
Now I dont know much about computers, but id be exploring what gatherings of people into such things there are.
Im lucky my wife is into old buildings, our first date was exploring the site of a Roman town and it sealed the deal. Never looked back. I knew anyone who would endure it with that level of enthusiasm was a keeper :-) She spends more time looking at Traction engines at shows than I do - loves to know how they work etc.
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As others have said, join 'plentyoffish' also try 'freedating' BUT don't join thinking you will meet 'the one' just join to make friends......
the fact is, if you go looking for love you wont find it.. don't look, and it will very likely find you when you least expect it!
one other thing I don't think has been mentioned, are you a member of a Gym?
join one and maybe your love will be there, and even if she isn't there are 2 benefits.
1/ you will get fitter, and feel better in yourself
2/ you will see some very tasty young ladies in tight fitting clothes....... ;-)
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Rattie me old mate i luckily am married to one of the finest and barmy (but in a good way) women ever to have walked this land, but never in a million years would we have met by putting our wants needs desires and attributes on paper or internet site.
We met perchance one day and locked eyes with each other and we both realised that something had happened.
However due to circumstances it took about 7 or 8 years before we got together, and not a day goes by when we don't regret not acting on the blindingly obvious sooner.
You spend a fair time in the pubs and clubs, and nothing wrong with that matey, but a relationship based on booze may not be for the best.
When the time is right you will meet the right woman, not convinced on the merits of internet dating for finding someone to share a life with, though they do provide a way for like minded people to meet for other reasons if you follow.
By the way, this is no way criticising British girls but women from other parts of the world have a different view on life and love, enjoy looking and finding out.
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Rattle
There is much good advice here
Back in the 80s Im worked in a nightclub in N.London, there was an ugly ginger headed barman called Fergus who also worked there.
However Fergus was often to be found leaving at the end of an evening with a lady on his arm. Being young and naive I asked him one evening to pass on the wisdom of his success with ladies. His answer was simple, "its a numbers game, the more you ask the more likely thay are to say yes", given that Fergus always asked a pretty loaded and direct question in relation to what he desired this information opened my eyes.
I have noticed this twith regards to some with whom I work, those that ask get, and remember God always loves a trier
As always
Mark
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Rattle
Whatever happened to all that fantastic night clubs scene in Manchester?
Has it all closed down?
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>> Whatever happened to all that fantastic night clubs scene in Manchester?
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>> Has it all closed down?
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Hmm maybe here is Rattles problem - you having said that reminds me that Rattle does like a pint or 2 at weekends - maybe he is drinking too much and putting the girls off?
Rattle, try going out and restricting the consumption, see if that makes a difference?
have a few, just don't get out of your head.
That reminds me, after a good night out I never went to bed with an ugly woman......
.... woke up in the morning with a few though!
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How can you fail to meet women?
Youngest daughter's requested birthday treat was all day until dark at Skegness beach/funfair so unusually we found ourselves on the Sat night streets until 11pm. You only had to cross the road to meet a fit looking available woman. Many were wearing neon leg warmers and the like so there were easy to find.
I have no idea what they'd be like at cooking or lawn mowing but worth finding out.
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Ratts, when you go out drinking, drink wine.
Women will think you are sophisticated.
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(1) To find a Woman, you need time and money, therefore:
Women = time and money.
(2) "Time is money" so
Time = Money.
(3) Therefore:
Women = Money x Money
(4) "Money is the root of all problems"
(5) Therefore:
Women = Problems.
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So now we know why you call yourself Dog..... :)
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Discoverer: Adam
Atomic Mass: Accepted as 55kg, but known to
vary from 45kg to 225kg
Physical Properties:
(1) Body surface namally covered with film of powder
and paint.
(2) Boils at absolutely nothing - freezes for no apparent
reason.
(3) Found in various grades ranging from virgin material
to common ore.
Chemical Properties:
(1) Reacts well to gold, platinum and all precious stones
(2) Explodes spontaneously without reason or warning
(3) The most powerful money reducing agent known
to man.
Common Use:
(1) Highly ornamental, especially in sports cars
(2) Can greatly aid relaxation
(3) Can be a very effective cleaning agent :)
Hazards:
(1) Turns green when placed alongside a superior
specimen
(2) Possession of more than one is possible but
specimens must never make eye contact.
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Another vote for "going out and joining a society" right here - that's how I met Mrs B: we were both members of the same choral society.
The point about people on the periphery of of your circle is a good one, as well - as it happens, our mothers had worked together some years before and I knew of her that way. Fact that she was already a member of the choral society I joined was pure coincidence.
Have never had cause to use an online dating service (they hadn't really got going when Mrs B and I were courting) but a few mates have. A couple of them have met lovely girls who they have then gone on to marry, others had less satisfactory experiences. But all agreed that the services were a godsend for anyone in a solitary occupation and/or who worked unsociable hours.
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Sorry not been on for a few days, had a mad busy weekend. Did end up with a girls number, but in the end the Damned was more important and I blew it :).
I do like the real society suggestions, just no idea what I want to get involved in. It would have to be something which does not involve cars, buses, planes, trams or trains or even computers for that matter!
My ears are now completly blocked which didn't help matters.
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Rattle, bands are NEVER more important than totty.
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>>bands are NEVER more important than totty.
Absolutely. One can listen to music which is not live, but............
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Wasn't even live. I really cannot be bothered meeting girls that way anyway. At least on the internet you know something about them first.
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Nope you know less, you only know what they tell you and you cant vouch for any of it.
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But it would only take a 15-30 minute conversation on the internet to find out if they were at least half telling the truth. Having a conversation in a rock night club with blocked ears is always going to be a disaster.
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Rattle, I could converse with you on line for WEEKS and you would never even know I was a bloke, let alone telling the truth.
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>> Rattle, I could converse with you on line for WEEKS and you would never even
>> know I was a bloke, let alone telling the truth.
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You really shouldn't string the poor lad along like that ;-)
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>> Rattle, I could converse with you on line for WEEKS and you would never even
>> know I was a bloke, let alone telling the truth.
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>>>>>> beauty
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You are of course making an assumption that Rattle is a bloke Zero .......
...... and she may well be using this forum as a chatroom to pick up grumpy old petrolheads...
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>> you would never even know I was a bloke
You're a BLOKE !?!?!?
After all this time my dreams are shattered.
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>> >> you would never even know I was a bloke
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>> You're a BLOKE !?!?!?
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>> After all this time my dreams are shattered.
you never complained in bed......
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I did, but you couldn't hear me over the noise from the llamas. Anyway, now I know why it was always so dark.
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>> I did, but you couldn't hear me over the noise from the llamas. Anyway, now
>> I know why it was always so dark.
The lamas were better in bed anyway
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if you'd let me continue with the PushMePullYou expedition we could have both been happy.
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You got a nice one for Rattle to choose from? one that likes Morrisey?
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I think the Dalai Lama quite likes Morrissey. Is that close enough?
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Actually the Dalai Lama is not close at all, he is miles away.
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Well, Rattle is on another world so that's not close.
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>> Rattle, I could converse with you on line for WEEKS and you would never even know I was a bloke, let alone telling the truth.
Are you saying that was you?
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>> But it would only take a 15-30 minute conversation on the internet to find out
>> if they were at least half telling the truth.
Rattle, we've no idea whether you're telling the truth or not. The more bonkers threads you come up with like this, then more inclined we are to think you are a figment of somebody's imagination. Surely nobody really writes stuff like this!
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>> I really cannot be bothered meeting girls that way anyway.
Mate, this is going to be your problem. If you can't be bothered with them, they won't be bothered with you. This is especially true for the 99.999999% of us who aren't David Beckham or Jake Gyllenhaal or whoever the latest incumbent of the "fit celeb bloke" position is. You have to put a bit of effort in.
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Go to some dancing lessons. Ratio girls:boys 2:1.
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Or you could buy a wife from Russia or Thailand.
You've got to invest about £10k for a good Russian one according to a TV program I saw recently ;-)
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>> Or you could buy a wife from Russia or Thailand.
Hmm yes, someone else did that, now who was it........
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i get the opinion rattle sees a girl as a trophy to be pulled out of a cupboard when he needs it
bad way to start a relationship,seen so many marriages fail over the years and the bloke always ends up the worser party
might as well pay a lady of the night every now and then if there is no committal to try and make a relationship work
:-)
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>> i get the opinion rattle sees a girl as a trophy to be pulled out
>> of a cupboard when he needs it
>> bad way to start a relationship,seen so many marriages fail over the years and the
>> bloke always ends up the worser party
>> might as well pay a lady of the night every now and then if there is no committal
>> to try and make a relationship work
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Rattle - no offence, but having re-read your post it does sound a bit like you have been to a wedding and thought "I want that" rather than actualy deciding nows the time to settle down.
TBH you often find these these things come along when you dont expect them. I think when you are not trying to pull you are far more attractive to the oposite (or same depending on your preference) sex. I think I have had more offers since I have been with the Mrs than when I was trying
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Women, bless 'em, can't resist a wallet.
Get a sign printed up to shove in the back of the Ratmobile.
It should read as follows....
pc DOCTOR ON CALL
Use a very small font for the "pc" and a very large bold font for the rest !
Smile winningly at any passing ringless female with a pulse within ten years of your age every time you park up and hope that some of them are avaricious and a bit myopic. This may not get your life partner objective sorted but y'know, it'll liven things up a bit on the practice front......
:-)
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Forget the women and stick with the beer Rattle. You know where you are with beer and believe me its a whole lot cheaper.
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I was having a good chat about this yesterday with one of my mates at a wedding and he reckons setteling down will solve a lot of my problems.
Rattle, I think that RF is correct when he says "Settling down wont solve any of your problems." (I'm less certain that he is correct when he says "Trying to find a girl to settle down with wont work - too much pressure. You find girls to have fun with and settling down will come out of one of them.")
About 17 years ago I decided that I really ought to get married. I had a few female friends from university days that I was still in touch with who were still single. I contacted one of them, and we got together, met up a few times, and friendship turned to love, and we got married, and are in the process of living happily ever after with a lot more "for better" than "for worse."
But it has not solved any of my problems - other than the problem of lack of companionship that afflicts single chaps. Indeed, it has created a few new problems. I've no regrets - but don't expect settling down to solve your problems.
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Offhand I can't think of anyone I know who 'decided to settle down' and then succeeded in doing it. It's just a thing that happens, sooner or later, to some people - fewer perhaps than in the past - and then it either works or doesn't.
I know people who have been married since they were 20, half a century ago, others who have had multiple unsuccessful relationships, people who were attractive but unliveable-with, people who went mad, all sorts.
Just go with the flow Sheikha. You will meet the right woman one day, or not. But just be who you are (although it can be a good idea to tone down the geekiness, if any).
There's no formula really. As bb says you can buy sex, but that's a bit emotionally thin even in the short term. People who have done nothing else all their lives often turn a bit sour and misanthropic.
Others have commented that a chap isn't at his most winsome after ten pints. I can only agree. At a certain point alcohol takes you from being daringly amusing into less charming waters.
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i don't get that drunk when going clubbing, I am out so long (these days to 4:00am and beyond) thanks to all my mates suddenly going through the I am still under 30 just syndrome lets make the most of it.
This saturday I had 7 pints but that from 8:30pm to 3:00am so I certainly wasn't sober but I knew what I was doing. The reason I walked away from the girl is I just had no interest. I think the meeting in society thing is a good idea. I am studying at moment in my own time but its all computer related. I might have a look at cheap or free college courses in my local areas which girls will do. Dancing is a bit of a no no as I am crap at it, but maybe if there was some rock dance clubs that would be funny - such a thing does exist but its rock salsa, not sure how that would work doing Salsa to Led Zeppilin or Journey.
I am not interested in sex at all, its only special with the right person. I think over the weekend I have realised I don't want to settle down yet, I still have plenty of madness to come while I am single but I do want to start dating and if I find the right girl then that is another matter.
And yes I know what you mean about finding one when you're not looking, my ex was a girl I have known from the net for many years before we started going out. I think it all started when I was giving her advice about university and her first car....
At the wedding on Friday some of my mates (not my usual drinking ones - they were not there) I was did the role as the wedding drunk perfectly and wish they had the confidence to chat to all the strangers. I was speaking to the many people I have never met and telling jokes about the groom so why do I get so shy when it comes to the ladies? I am getting a lot better so maybe it just needs more time.
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>>so why do I get so shy when it comes to the ladies?<<
That's the good thing about Ale Cohol comrade,
I'll never forget one xmas down The Crown in Leicester Sq.,
I was 3 sheets to the wind and I went around and kissed every woman in that pub :)
Would I have done that while sober, would I eck!
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>> I am not interested in sex at all, ............
That's where you're going wrong. Girls want sex. Girls in your age bracket are gagging for sex. It's time you started sowing your wild oats. And give your libido a boost by cutting down on the alcohol. No girl is going to want a man who suffers from brewer's droop. At the moment they probably just see you as being a member of a gang of drunkards, all of whom are suffering from erectile dysfunction. Subscribing to Match.com won't alter that.
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>>Girls want sex.<<
Snaily is right (from my experience), same the world over really - its why we're here, to procreate.
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"I am not interested in sex at all, its only special with the right person."
Oh Rattle, what women's magazine have you subscribed to?
Sex with the right person is ok from time to time at best.
Sex with the wrong person is wild, dirty, degraded and never less than fantastic. Especially if you can get them to pee on you.
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>>Especially if you can get them to pee on you.<<
Puts a new slant on Dansiger Gold Wassser :}
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yes at least you would cock a leg Dog
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- - > yes at least you would cock a leg Dog < - -
Mmmmmmmm cock a leaky soup.
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The first thing you have to do is get your own house/flat. No girl is going to want to be upstairs in bed with you when your parents are downstairs watching Countdown!
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Whatever happened to the back seat of the car? Modern women are so spoiled!
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>> watching Countdown!
Sex in the late afternoon, how bourgeois.
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"Girls want sex. Girls in your age bracket are gagging for sex. "
I personally would be cautious regarding the advice of ancient geezers who claim to know a great deal about young women and their sexual proclivities.
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>> "Girls want sex. Girls in your age bracket are gagging for sex. "
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>> I personally would be cautious regarding the advice of ancient geezers who claim to know
>> a great deal about young women and their sexual proclivities.
I think Les has slithered out for some more werther's originals.
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>> "Girls want sex. Girls in your age bracket are gagging for sex. "
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>> I personally would be cautious regarding the advice of ancient geezers who claim to know
>> a great deal about young women and their sexual proclivities.
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I was only repeating what my granddaughter and her female friends had told me.
:-D
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>> >> watching Countdown!
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>> Sex in the late afternoon, how bourgeois.
Energy levels are supposed to be highest at this time of the day...
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I am sure Pat would have been able to give a female opinion on this but unfortunately she seems to not be posting.
Whatever happened to Pologirl, did she come across?
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Whatever happened to Pologirl, did she come across?
I think rtj70 was her replacement on the other side. Not sure, though.
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Whatever happened to Pologirl, did she come across?
She posted a question in the Back Room at the beginning of February, but prior to that she had not posted for quite some time. (Since May 2009, I think.)
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never liked polo girl since she put adam down when she was moderator
it was uncalled for and rude
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>> never liked polo girl since she put adam down when she was moderator
>> it was uncalled for and rude
How can you be put down by an anonymous stranger when you're anonymous yourself? I've learned to laugh at any mickey-taking that comes my way.
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>> I think rtj70 was her replacement on the other side. Not sure, though.
See what I mean about the tinternet Ratts? RTJ70 is a girl, and you never knew.
(either that or pologirl was a fella)
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>> Whatever happened to Pologirl, did she come across?
She registered an account here but cocked up the spelling of her email address and thus never got the validation email. I deleted the account so she could start again and that was the last I heard from her.
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>> Pologirl, did she come across?
An intrusive question that no gentleman could possibly answer...
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To bring it back to the plot guys.....
I met my wife doing a sponsored long distance walk overseas for charity. I know a few people who have had similar experiences of doing something slightly different and meeting the 'love of their life'. I certainly didn't go looking for love and my mother sent me on my way to the airport with the words "don't think this trip will change your life" ringing in my ears. Well she was wrong - most unexpectedly, totally and delightfully wrong!
So Rattle get out there and do something different. You will meet some really great people who you will keep in touch with for many years and you may - just may find someone to share the rest of your life with.
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I think the fact that Rattle has made a conscious decision to look for a female is a bad one.
If you go and look for something like that you’ll never find it.
In any relationship, friendship has to come first, without that there is no mutual respect and nothing to sustain the trials and tribulations which will inevitably come along in the future.
Having a relationship isn’t a cure for loneliness, or an answer to any lifestyle problems. These need addressing first, and as has been said in many of the posts on here already, widening your interests will inevitably mean meeting new people, both male and female.
Don’t worry about being shy with females, it’s an attractive quality to most of us, and makes us try a bit harder,
In general, it’s far better to be shy than to be loud and abrasive, which most women hate unless they’re from the same ilk.
Match.com could work, I suppose, I know of cases where it has done but I’ll tell you a story……
Mr pda & I met some years ago through the Professional Drivers Association and both did voluntary for them. Most of that work was done online but occasionally we had to meet up for meetings and events. We became firm friends and learned an awful lot about each other.
We discovered we’d both been on the same dating site but our profiles would never have matched. He was looking for a non smoker, non drinker and loved dogs and motor sport. He admitted to being an anorak where engines and machinery was concerned.
I was looking for a smoker, who liked a social drink now and again and loved cats and gardening and the great outdoors.
We laughed when we made that discovery and the friendship grew because we’d shared a secret. Ian started to come up from Kent every weekend to stay in the Fen so we could go to motorbike meetings together, just as friends.
Over the years we stopped needing an excuse for him to come and stay so he moved in, but it took a lot of courage to do that.
You see, he was 26 years younger than me and some people see that as abnormal or wrong, or even ‘sick’ was the most scathing comment we had. Those people are no longer our friends.
A year later we got married, and the hard times came along, but our relationship is one of equals in the true sense. It will endure anything that comes along and after 10 years living alone, I know I have found the best friend I’ll ever have.
So rattle, don’t bother looking for it, it will come along when the time is right, from where you least expect it.
Pat
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Wow...! Lovely story!
And there was me thinking that the "p" in "pda" stood for Pat!
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>> So rattle, don’t bother looking for it, it will come along when the time is
>> right, from where you least expect it.
In the meantime, get out there and sow your wild oats and fill your boots.
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I have decided to probably go to back to college do a short course in order to apply for a PGCE in adult education maybe next year.
In the mean time there is a couple of girls I have been chatting to via plentyoffish but I not taking it too seriously.
I just need to get some routine back into my life. The past five years my life has been:-
Work self employed during the week as the biggest loner, weekend get drunk with all mates. The biggest routine I have is the club I go to. I know most the staff, I know a lot of the regulars but pulling there is too hard as I can't hear anything!
I am a graduate and I do work hard, I have lots of good experience so there is no reason I need to put up with poverty all my life. I think speaking to my old university friends at the wedding helped me realise that.
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What about volunteering for a job that gets you out in the open air for a few hours a week.
I was a park ranger at Dunham Massey for a few years and met lots of both sexes of all ages. Being involved with the education dept there meant I met a fair old few young lady primary teachers.......although too old and slow to chase them.
Get to know one or two whilst ' pond dipping ' and see where the land lies.
Most girls go for a sense of humour in a bloke.
You should try every experience you can in life.......except incest and morris dancing.
Ted.......( Who knows what gender you are.....I think :-)...but isn't sure about Zero now ! )
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Rattle, are you absolutely sure that it's a girl that you need to be looking for?
This is 2010 and there's nothing to be ashamed of if the answer is no...
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Some people seem to be just as happy with man's best friend.
Dog.
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>>>> Rattle, are you absolutely sure that it's a girl that you need to be looking for?
A fair consideration Mike..... they do say once you've tried the real thing you'll never go back to a woman!
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Haha lets just say my ex made me entirely sure it is a woman I am looking for!
I just want to play about a bit and see what happens at the moment really :). One of my mates is a real slag and he seems to get a new girlfriend every week, there is no way I want to be like that even though I am highly jealous of him.
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Brilliant, thanks Smokie, found it a bit cheaper on fleab one ordered for my lad.
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Mmm, best not give it to t'missus when she's making you a cup of tea....
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>> I just want to play about a bit and see what happens at the moment really :). One of my mates is a real slag and he seems to get a new girlfriend every week, there is no way I want to be like that even though I am highly jealous of him.
No one has done it yet, but people are quite capable of jeering at you for saying that. 'Whaddya mean, real slag? Real man more like.'
However having been around nearly three times as long as you, lived through the sixties which more or less coincided with my twenties, 'been around' as they say, and been far from saintly in my own sexual morality at times, I would say it was a very sound attitude. Not everyone is the same and what for some is a riot of insouciant fun is for others sometimes burdensome and problematic. Casual relationships can be all right, but they need to be equal: that is, equally casual on both sides. Some individuals are ruthless and unscrupulous in their personal relationships, but there's a moral, an emotional price to pay.
I am particularly impressed by your admission that you greatly envy your successfully promiscuous friend. I haven't said it before Sheikha, but you're cool.
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Considering how shy Ratattouille says he is, he sure does write some very revealing posts!
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>>Considering how shy Ratattouille says he is, he sure does write some very revealing posts!<<
Action speaks louder than words.
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I hope you keep us all up to speed, Rattolingus.
I'd come with you but I'm a bit old to go on a trim hunt nowadays !
Ted
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I think your wife might also have something to say about that!
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She'll do as she's told !
Ow !!!
Ted
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Match.com - any experiences? - bathtub tom
