This morning we had the Olympic bicycle trial go through our village - if thats anything to go by the actual games atmosphere will be fantastic - and so everyone was out watching and afterwards, the kids met in the park.
A good mates wife, let on that her husband, who travels for a living, has the option of staying near the airport, on the night prior to flying - although we only live 40 mins from the airport. He has arranged to stay, and she reckons that he's forgotton that its their anniversary that night. - and asked us not to remind him.
Do we do as she asks , and rib him for ages afterwards - or remind him, so he is in her good books and we can get a good few rounds out of him for it.
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If she finds out you grassed then will she have it in for you. Personally I would give him a nudge.
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I'd give him a quiet nudge too, he can then have a Eureka moment in a few weeks time and agree an alternative day close to the anniversary with his wife to celebrate, or cancel completely and reschedule, their choice.
Him being stuck for hours in traffic on the day in question will ruin the day for them anyway.
If you nudged me i'd never let on.
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if you are GOOD friends then i'd tell him but tell him not to tell his wife you let on to him.
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Fairly obvious that one old chap. (:o-)
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Don't say a word, just sit back and watch the fun!
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I suspect he has not forgotten the anniversary and is planning a surprise treat for his wife, possibly involving an overnight stay in the hotel.
He is hoping feigning forgetfulness will increase the impact of the surprise, which it may do, but not in the way he is expecting.
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no surprise arranged, he's a pilot and due to known traffic chaos and an early flight schedule, he's booked a hotel room near to the airport the night before - but he doesn't have too - Hence the reason she thinks he's forgotton.
Our kids go to school and play togehter - he, I and others drink togehter at least once a week, if his schedule allows (not able to drink 48hrs before flying)
Do I spoil her fun of milking him for his forgetfullness for all its worth - or risk the wrath of her by warning him - it'll have to be by text as he's away now and we go before he comes back.
On consideration I think the most fun will be - Do nothing
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I think all mean should stick togetehr on this. Warn him.
P.S. Cheers, house sale has me quite busy at the moment..and the anniversary is in 2 weeks time...and wasn't on the radar.
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Anonymous note under the windscreen wiper jobby
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made of letters cut from the daily mail...
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No person has any right to stop a man and his wife having a blazing row.
Say nothing.
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Why not drop a hint - i.e. get a conversation going on the subject, and then say "whens your aniversary"
May remind him, or he may tell you its in X weeks
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>> Why not drop a hint - i.e. get a conversation going on the subject, and
>> then say "whens your aniversary"
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No bloke would ever ask another bloke such an intimate question. It implies a sexual interest.
Last edited by: Robin Regal on Sun 14 Aug 11 at 21:57
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If you can't then mention some sort of 'ideas' for your own anniversary as a hint... wrong friends?
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>> >> Why not drop a hint - i.e. get a conversation going on the subject,
>> and then say "whens your aniversary"
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>> No bloke would ever ask another bloke such an intimate question. It implies a sexual
>> interest.
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Lordy RR.. I'm glad my mates aren't like you!
I don't see anything sexual about asking that.
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RR has more than once said don't do anything - I think the original poster needs to at least drop a major hint. Nothing sexual about that. RR has other ideas...
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I don't think its an intimate question, its just one that no bloke would ever ask. Blokes just don't do anniversaries and birthdays. Its a girly sort of thing.
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It isn't what I would call a moral dilemma, it's a social one.
This thing of couples asking their friends to keep secrets from their partners is actually rather bad behaviour on their part. Only you know whether they can be trusted - in this case, whether she can be trusted not to make her old man's life a misery if you don't remind him and he doesn't remember.
If she can't be trusted, then tell him. If she can - if all she wants to do is tease him a bit - then you shouldn't feel obliged to tell him.
I regularly forget birthdays etc and usually some mother or someone reminds me, close enough to the time so I don't forget again. That isn't usually too bad.
But when male friends confide in you or boast to you about their infidelities, and you like their wives or partners, it can be extremely uncomfortable. And if the person concerned finds out that you knew and didn't tell her, she will take against you, and you can't really blame her.
Secrecy in general is a pain actually. People can really be rubbish sometimes.
Last edited by: Armel Coussine on Mon 15 Aug 11 at 01:54
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I'm not very good at remembering my own anniversary. I certainly wouldn't be bothered remembering anybody elses's.
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>>and asked us not to remind him.
Her words. What she really said was. "YOU BEST REMIND HIM OR HE WILL BE IN DEEP DOO DOO."
Dont any of you speak "Woman"?
Last edited by: Zero on Mon 15 Aug 11 at 08:41
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>>and asked us not to remind him.
Her words. What she really said was. "YOU BEST REMIND HIM OR HE WILL BE IN DEEP DOO DOO."
Dont any of you speak "Woman"?
Spot on.Tell him.
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I tend to forget anniversaries and once missed my car MOT by some months, such that it came into line with my wedding anniversary. I thought that'd be handy, as when the car was due for it's MOT it would trigger me into remembering the anniversary.
I forgot them both the next year...
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slight moral dilema ! - MD
