Non-motoring > Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs	Legal Questions
Thread Author: zippy	Replies: 17

Mon 2 Dec 24 12:01   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - zippy

I have often worked in a bit of a cluttered environment. I knew where everything was. Mrs Z would often come along tidying up and mess my filing system up - especially annoying as she would shuffle papers together meaning that papers for different companies became mixed up. I have been working on lots of documents over the past few weeks; pensions, shares etc. and she's done the same again - even after begging her not to move my stuff. I'm in a bit of a huff over it because one of the papers that has moved has a deadline of this week and I can't find it now! Rant over. Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 12:19   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Bromptonaut

You have my sympathy. She doesn't go in my study but anything downstairs is fair game. Same if I'm cooking. If I put the flour shaker down before I'm sure I've got the quantity right she'll have it back in the cupboard, or at least challenge me over why it's still off. Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 12:44   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Zero

>> I'm in a bit of a huff over it because one of the papers that >> has moved has a deadline of this week and I can't find it now! >> >> Rant over. At the end of the day, its your* fault not hers. empathy have I none. *tbf it will be even if it wasnt Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 13:56   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - smokie

Don't say you weren't warned!! LOL www.car4play.com/forum/post/index.htm?v=e&t=31166&m=675425 Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 14:07   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Manatee

We had our first row of the year over this last week. I just can't understand it. You leave stuff there, in rough heaps of related stuff, to deal with as and when and without a word it is gathered up in no particular order and added to something else for good measure, then hidden. I discovered it when I went, voluntarily and without being prompted, to tidy it myself. MY STUFF! I don't 'tidy' hers. Of course it was I who ended up apologising. /rant Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 14:35   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Robin O'Reliant

My first MiL was a nightmare like that. If you put the newspaper down to nip to the loo by the time you got back it had been folded and placed in the magazine rack. I'm the polar opposite, I can't organise a filing system to save my life and can never find anything. If it wasn't for Mrs O'Reliant sorting stuff into the right folders and in the right order I'd be lost. Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 15:07   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - smokie

I have much of my (and our) important documentation and info online on my NAS, readily accessible to those who might need it, and all regularly backed up of course. I usually scan any incoming letters or bills which are worth keeping them shred them. Everything is logically filed and named and SWMBO knows where stuff is and how to open it. Whereas she insists on keeping hers on paper in filing cabinet (which, btw, contributes to my cluttered office). And she keeps bank and credit card statements going back years, and many of the "advertising" letters we get from e.g. our bank, pension provider, etc etc. It is an unwieldy mess. OTOH both my garage and office are a total mess, I barely have desk space for my keyboard and I have cupboards and shelves full of devices, tools etc - none labelled but I know exactly where anything is (usually!!). She knows not to "tidy me up", and has learnt never to clean in my office. Suits me!! Once in a while I have a tidy and find stuff I'd forgotten I'd bought - particularly some of the cheap home automation devices I order with startling regularity - which is annoying as more than once I've ordered something I think would be useful, only to find I already have it. LOL Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 15:19   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Zero

>> My first MiL was a nightmare like that. If you put the newspaper down to >> nip to the loo by the time you got back it had been folded and >> placed in the magazine rack You mean you dont take the paper to the loo? whats the matter with you man Reply to this message | Report message       1

Mon 2 Dec 24 16:24   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Ted

>> You mean you dont take the paper to the loo? whats the matter with you >> man He probably already has some paper in there, in a roll on the wall ! Ted Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 16:37   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - tyrednemotional

....there's posh!... Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 17:23   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Robin O'Reliant

>> >> >> You mean you dont take the paper to the loo? whats the matter with you >> man >> That's what "Readers Wives" are for. Reply to this message | Report message       1

Mon 2 Dec 24 17:59   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Ted

Prefer " Asian Babe " meself ! Ted Reply to this message | Report message       1

Mon 2 Dec 24 20:52   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Bromptonaut

The other two are vehicle related: (a) telling me how to drive smoothly when anybody else says when she's at the helm she has their head jerking back and forth and (b) being head down on her tablet then looking up and getting alarmed when speed changes or I seem to be closing fast with the truck in front 'cos I'm going to overtake on the M/way but am sequencing with faster following traffic. Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 22:32   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Ted

Mine is always on edge when I'm driving. She doesn't see potential hazards and dangers arising. She scolds me for not going fast enough, when in fact I'm monitoring a situation which may arise which she hasn't identified. Right of way, 30mph, approaching a side road on left. Van waiting to come out to his right. I brake, not harshly, " Why are you braking, he's not coming out ? " No, but she hadn't seen the tip of a cars bonnet on the other side of him who looked as if he couldn't see me and was about to come out. That sort of thing ! She'll do a scream when she suddenly sees a danger which I've already seen, that makes me brake as I think she's seen something else. She seems not to remember that( trumpet to blow here ) I'm a highly qualified ex police class one driver/biker who got over 290% out of 300 % in my last triple exams. It never leaves you, ask Fullchat. Oh, and at home she has the habit of tidying my stuff away but never hers. Bathroom surfaces covered in her bottles of her unguents but I leave a razor out and it's gone. Love her dearly though ! Ted Reply to this message | Report message       1

Mon 2 Dec 24 22:47   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - smokie

All those driving tales are very familiar to me. Yet the slightest comment on her driving and I get the silent treatment, or worse. I have done IAM and I still think I'd pass on my usual standard of driving. I've offered to pay for her to do it but she's having none of it. Reply to this message | Report message

Mon 2 Dec 24 23:29   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - zippy

>> that makes me brake as I think she's seen something else. >> I get that too Ted - makes me jump out of my skin. Or it's the oh- look at that - and it's lambs gambolling in a field - I'd rather keep my eyes on the road thanks. >> Love her dearly though ! Yes, I do too, not yours you understand, but mine :-D Reply to this message | Report message

Tue 3 Dec 24 21:04   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Fullchat

So many traits I recognise in Mrs FC Ted. They could be twins :) The one where she she exclaims loudly and I think that she has actually seen something I haven't. Really annoying! As for the Advanced driving tickets. Definitely a skill for life. May cut a the odd corner occasionally, but you have to know where the corners are before you cut them :) (Figuratively speaking of course) No 'refreshers' now to hone your skills back up. Transferable skills from cars to bikes. Reply to this message | Report message

Tue 3 Dec 24 22:16   Pet Gripe - Spouse Tidying Up Important Docs - Ted

HaHa...The one thing I never do is comment on her driving, It's bad enough to be in the doghouse at home but in the confined space of her Micra it's fatal. She doesn't seem to have any idea that when the red lights come on four cars ahead of us, then it's likely the one in front of us may soon be slowing down ! I just sit and think. Sometimes I just sit. She's got very 'scoldy ' over the last couple of years. I seem to deserve a telling off for the most minor and irrelevant indiscretions....like not putting the knives all the same way round in the cutlery drawer the other day. My explanation is that, speshly spoons and forks, they have a fat end and a thin end so it makes sense to me to not bunch all the fat ends together. Still, as washer up, I will continue with my appalling behaviour ! Petty rubbish in the context of the world's problems but it seems important to her. I'm now at the stage where I couldn't give a tuppeny fart about what she plans in the house, I just let her choose virtually everything from carpets to cups. Who cares ? I only live there ! Ted Reply to this message | Report message