On a parenting board, mainly consisting of mothers, there was a discussion about Fathers Day gifts. The general consensus seemed to be that it was perfectly acceptable to just buy a card and some naff gift and say it was from the kids. Is it me or is this a rather cynical view to take?
It annoyed me a little really because when I was a kid, I did things like paint my dad a watercolour of a submarine he served on, which 19 years later still hangs on their wall or with some help from mum, I plated up a pot full of flowers for him that I chose.
Do dads matter so little now that buying a bit of cheap tat is all they should hope for now?
I know its a commercialised day etc, but it doesnt stop you putting some thought in or helping your kids to surely.
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Mother's Day is the only genuine reason for celebrating the occasion in one form or another.
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Just take it on the chin and when the kids are old enough they will get you what they want or just tell them you want a go in a f1 track car!!
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I'm of the opinion Fathers and Mothers days are just hyped up (probably Americanisms) to boost the card industry....don't mention trick or treat...arrggh.
However as a Dad the one thing that always bought me the greatest pleasure was when my daughter would make a card for me for my birthday, she continued doing so till she was about 18.
I never want my kids spending their hard earned or even their pocket money on me, bet most dads feels the same.
Last edited by: gordonbennet on Sat 12 Jun 10 at 07:59
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In my young days (50/60s) it was the norm for the mum to stay at home with the drudgery while your dad had the exciting job and spending power that went with it. Dads had the car, camera, boat, hi-fi, tv, gun, whisky, pub, golf, footy etc... mum had the ... errr... washing machine. So traditional mothering sunday, tied in with a church service, seemed a small way to redress the balance once a year.
In more recent years fathers day was invented by greetings card sellers to make money. I've never given dad anything for fathers day and don't exepct anything from my kids.
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It looks like I'll be doing a hundred-odd mile round trip on the day to visit my daughter, so I'll be the only one not drinking.
I've got it wrong somewhere.
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>> On a parenting board, mainly consisting of mothers, there was a discussion about Fathers Day
>> gifts. The general consensus seemed to be that it was perfectly acceptable to just buy
>> a card and some naff gift and say it was from the kids. Is it
>> me or is this a rather cynical view to take?
Was it a board for divorced or single parent mothers?
Sounds like it.
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Zero,is there any other kind? Or if they are married, they do not stop complaining about who they married.
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Zero,is there any other kind? Or if they are married, they do not stop complaining about who they married. lol..............
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My little darlings have let slip that they have each "made" me something at Nursery / School which I will be more than happy with. I agree that its a bit hyped up, but it is nice to have a little recognition once a year even if I will have to endure a cup of cold tea and burnt toast in bed :-)
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...Was it a board for divorced or single parent mothers?...
I looked at mums.net once.
Lots of women talking dirty to each other.
The mods on here would have a fit.
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Fathers day - invention.
Mothers day should be called Mothering Sunday.
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To those of you who don't like Fathers Day, don't want your kids spending their money on you and think it's a waste of time I'd like to say 'stop being so selfish'.
Contrary to what you might think, Fathers Day isn't all about you.
Men have a strange way of not being able to show emotion or love. A lot simply can't put it into words because that would make them a wuss.
Well, Fathers Day is an opportunity for that adolescent son or daughter, who you've fallen out with many times to say I love you Dad, despite everything.
Some people just get more pleasure from giving something to someone and making them happy, than receiving gifts, so don't take that away from them either, just be proud that you've brought them up to be like that.
Ignore the hype and enjoy the sentiment behind it, there will be many Fathers who would love to be in your place ( and some on here, I know).
Pat
Last edited by: Webmaster on Wed 16 Jun 10 at 09:28
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Agree completely Pat - as someone who was a single dad bringing up two kids for on my own for a number of years the little cards or pictures my kids have made for me at nursery or school really mean a great deal.
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She's done it again. LISTEN TO PAT. There's always something worth learning.
Morning Darling!!
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Cor flippin eck.
Pat's right but only in a way.
If kids of any age love their parents then by all means if they can be bothered spending some time making something then that's great...time not money, love is free whether from a 3 year old son/daughter or a 33/63 year old lover, it has to be nurtured and reciprocated.
I did not want my kids wasting their hard earned or pocket money on a card that cost 2p to print and ship from China and retails at 4.99 in hallmark....especially for some created dubious thing like fathers day, with all it's hyped and unsubtle guilt traps.
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I disagree GB
You're imposing your will on them. Let them spend their hard earned money on whatever they choose, and show their love and respect of you in the way they want to.
It's what it stands for that matters to them.........and certainly should to all the Fathers as well.
Pat
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im with GB
my wife didnt get anything off her son on mothering sunday and it broke her heart but us men arent into this stuff we would rather just have all the family in good health than spend money on rubbish goods
jees its €20 for my wife to get her hair cut how come i only pay €3
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We end up paying for our own fathers day card or gift anyway.
Sons get thoughtless, about the age of 10. Mothers day means nothing to them. Every year I have to push a bunch of daisies and a card in his thoughtless hands aand say "give them to your mother"
Last edited by: Zero on Sun 13 Jun 10 at 12:44
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Don't feed him that day. That might teach the ungrateful git a lesson.
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>>Every year I have to push a bunch of daisies and a card in his thoughtless hands aand say "give them to your mother"
I suspect that is precisely why he'll never do it off his own back. He doesn't need to bother because he knows dad'll sort it out for him. It seems he's got you well trained.
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If I didnt do it, it would never happen, training or not.
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Yesterday morning a subscription pack of Top Gear magazine dropped through the letterbox. Who's this for I queried, only to be told it was for me as a father's day present.
The thought was certainly there even if I am not sure I like the mag. I suspect the boys have done what I did to my dad - buy something for him, I wanted for myself!
Nice to feel appreciated though.
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Don't do Father's Day as I share other's views that it's an invention of the greeting card industry.
Note however that most of the comments above are about sons who 'forget'. Daughters somehow seem able to organise these things!!!
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Fathers day gifts - Stuartli
